We all fail at something every once in awhile. However, it is never a real failure, unless you make it one. Failure can be defined as lack of success, but this definition can be turned upside down in any situation, as long as you learn how to deal with it when it happens.
Here are a few steps that might help you move beyond failure and turn it into success.
Failure is often unexpected. If you have been working towards something for a long time and end up falling short, then you might start replaying every little detail in your mind that could have caused the failure. You might hold yourself to such high expectations that it is nearly impossible to be “successful,” according to your definition of success. It can sometimes feel like the failure came out of nowhere and you might wonder “why is this happening to me right now?” We have all experienced moments like these… moments when you really just want to stop trying, moments when you question why you even bother setting goals if all you do is fall short, moments when all you want to do is give up. The next time this happens to you, take time to breathe. Whether that means sitting alone in silence or going for a run, try to step away from the failure and focus on the simple task of breathing. It seems so simple, but it can be the first step towards overcoming your failure.
Failure affects how you think. After you have taken time to simply breathe, reflection can be the next valuable step leading you beyond the failure. Think about everything leading up to that failure. Sometimes it is affected by circumstances out of your control, but sometimes it can be a direct result of things that you did or did not do. This might be the most difficult step, but when you are able to truly reflect on everything leading up to the failure, it will make it much easier to see how you can learn from it and move on.
Failure can turn into one of the greatest learning experiences of your life. Once you have reflected, chances are that you are able to see the “good” in whatever failure you had. Now is the time to change. Change can be a very good thing, especially after taking the time to reflect on whatever failure you just experienced. This could mean changing daily habits, changing the way you view certain situations, or changing your study environment. Once you have taken the time to make a change, then you will be able to view your failure more like a learning experience, which can then easily turn into a future success.
Do not let any failure consume you. You are in control of how you deal with failure. Just remember to breathe, reflect, and change so that your failure turns into success. Failure is only defined by your reaction to it.