Alone or Lonely?




There’s this thing worth learning about high school. People care too much about what everyone else is doing. We begin to believe that being alone isn’t okay. We have to be doing homework or spending time with our friends at all times, and in the rare occasion that we’d be destined to spend a single friday night at home alone, we must be glued to our phones, making sure we don’t miss out on the extravagant outings of others.

Cringe. Really?

Being alone gets way to much of a bad rap, and maybe that’s because it’s associated with being lonely. BUT! and there is a “but!” Being alone doesn’t have to mean you’re lonely. Most of us have busy lives, but we all have those moments where we are all alone, and sometimes that can result in feeling pretty lonely… but it doesn’t have to!

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Being alone can actually be really good. Having time to get to know ourselves, and what we like and dislike, without the influence of others can be extremely important, especially in high school where everyone is trying to influence each other. I don’t mean in a bad way necessarily, I just mean sometimes it’s so easy to get swept up in what’s “cool” or popular, that it can be hard to stay true to ourselves and what we love, when we never get any alone time.

Contrary to what it may feel like, being alone is very normal. It’s easy to feel lonely in high school, but the most important thing to do is fill your “alone” time with things you love doing.

High school might be one of the only times in your life that you actually have a lot of free time, so you should take advantage of it! Whether you’re alone because your friends are just busy, or you don’t have much in common with the people around you, having a good attitude about being alone and using it to your advantage will end up being very beneficial.

If you find yourself feeling bored or lonely because you’re alone, start a blog, try a new sport, write a book, make videos, or even take a long bubble bath! Do something that you can do because you have the time. No one is telling you what to do, so do something you love! It doesn’t have to be profound, but you don’t have to mope around and watch T.V all day. Use your alone time to become more familiar with yourself and more confident with who you are.

The great thing is, if you start doing things you like, chances are you’ll meet new friends who like the same things you do! That way, you won’t be bored or lonely!


As a senior, I know that sometimes high school can be pretty hard. People aren’t always who they say they are, we lose friends sometimes, or we go through break-ups. Things happen,and it can result in us being alone, but it’s good to become confident with who we are so we don’t always need other people to have fun.

We all go through seasons in life, and if you’ve been feeling lonely, you won’t feel that way forever. Use your free time as an advantage to become confident with yourself, because I can guarantee that soon enough, you’ll be too busy to take that long awaited bubble bath!

Jenna Adendorff






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