Social media can be awesome. Seeing what all your friends are up to at all times. Being “in the loop.” Getting to share your latest “big news” with the world.
But sometimes it can get a little overwhelming.
“She got to go to that concert!”
“They’re all hanging out without me?”
“That girl goes shopping like every weekend!”
Living in today’s world, it’s easy to feel like everyone else is having a great time while you’re at home doing physics homework. Although social media can be a great way to keep up with your friends, it can also end up being a downer if you’re too obsessed with it.
Something that we don’t realize, that should be pretty obvious, is that people only post on social media when they have something to post. Which means when we go on social media we only see the cool, fun things going on in someone else’s life, and we don’t see all the normal everyday things. The problem is, we’ve begun to accept social media as real life. But it’s not. It’s a list of comments or pictures of highlights. Not to mention the fact that people over exaggerate all the time with what they post. Social media doesn’t show us all the sad, boring things people do, but that doesn’t mean you’re the only one at home doing homework.
Sometimes in high school it can be hard because you might feel like you’re stuck in a place for four years, learning things that you could probably learn in one year, with a bunch of kids who just care about the way you look. It might seem like you’re doing things in vain when you go on social media and see a bunch of kids tweeting about skipping class but still getting good grades. You might see that popular girl on twitter, always tweeting about her big wins on the track team, but we forget to think about all the hard work and devotion she put into being there.
The most important thing to remember with social media is that it’s supposed to be fun. You don’t have to prove anything on it. You don’t have to believe everything you see, and you definitely don’t have to go on it all the time. If you find yourself being left out, or seeing your ex with his new girlfriend (which might sound cliché, but that’s only because it’s true), just take a break. Just a few years ago, nobody knew anything about each other unless they actually saw them in person. Knowing what’s going on in other people’s lives all the time can be distracting.
Of course, social media is usually a great thing. Most of us post fun things on social media quite often, and it can be a great networking avenue, but we’ve all seen something on Twitter or Instagram that makes us feel left out, or at least makes us want to be somewhere. It’s easy to say “just be happy for everyone having fun,” which is true, but sometimes it can become a downer when you’re being left out. So, if that happens to you, it’s an easy fix. Just take a break.
If sometimes you feel upset when you go on social media, there’s a simple way to change that. Don’t go on it! Focus on yourself. Take a step back and look at all the blessings in your life. So what if you weren’t invited to one even? I’m sure you’re not the only one. So you’re at home doing homework and everyone else got to go to a concert? That’s disappointing, but think about how much worse things could be.
Social media is a pretty small thing that can end up making us feel way more upset than it should. Next time you feel yourself having some social media sadness, just take a step back and focus on the life you have, and stop worrying about everyone else’s.