It is easy to get caught up in thinking about all the things that are holding you back from being able to do something. Whether you do not have enough money to go abroad, the right qualifications to get accepted into a prestigious school, or the specific skills necessary to land that dream job, it does not mean that you should stop trying to reach similar goals. What can be seen as a setback at the time might just end up being the start of a journey towards a much greater goal.
You have probably heard countless examples of successful people who have failed many, many times before reaching one of their goals. So how is it that they kept pushing forward, moving past those setbacks? Although everyone handles setbacks differently, there are three pieces of advice that might help you get past a setback:
1. Stay optimistic.
An optimistic approach can make the difference between being happy or sad, courageous or afraid, fulfilled or dissatisfied. It is easy to lose hope in a dream when the path towards it takes a sharp turn in a different direction. Try to keep the positive thoughts flowing and you will be able to focus on one thing at a time instead of dwelling on the setback.
2. Be realistic.
You might have a setback that leaves you feeling like you will never be able to reach your goal. Or even worse, that you will never be able to reach any of your goals. A setback might keep you from reaching your original goal, but it will most likely lead you towards a new and improved goal. You will also learn how to refine goals so that they are more realistic, and potentially more rewarding.
3. Do something.
Dwelling on a setback only makes it worse. If you do experience a setback, you might need to reevaluate personal expectations for yourself. Change your strategy in reaching your goals. Seek advice from others. As long as you do something about it, the setback will no longer be a setback, but the start towards a revised or completely new goal.
In the words of Coach John Wooden, “Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” Smart girls, listen to this advice and keep the focus on what you can do.