Finding Friends in College


You just moved to a new place, perhaps in a new city or state or even country. You have enough problems figuring out your way around, let alone finding your new best friends. In the media, college is portrayed as the place where you meet all of your best friends and constantly have a great time. But like any other experience, good relationships and exciting moments are valuable and they take time. Don’t worry so much about meeting your “best friends for life” right away, but make sure to get as involved on campus as you can by following these tips.

1. Branch out of your comfort zone.

No one knows who you were in high school. If you had a reputation that you didn’t like, you don’t have to carry it with you and use it to define yourself. You can be exactly who you want to be. Don’t limit yourself to the same activities you participated in before; you never know what you could learn about yourself from trying something new.

2. Talk to people in your classes.

Don’t be afraid to sit next to someone you don’t know. Chances are, she won’t know anyone either and she won’t think it’s weird that you sat next to her. Introduce yourself to people and be friendly. No, the people probably won’t become your best friends, but it’ll be nice to have people to talk to in your classes.

3. Join organizations on campus.

Regardless of whether you want to rush a sorority or play an IM sport, getting involved on campus is a great way to meet new people. You hear it again and again, but that’s because it’s true.

4. Spend some time outside of your dorm.

Even if you have to do homework, venture outside of your dorm. Try going to a coffee shop, library, or university center to meet new people.

5. Do what you’re passionate about.

If you get involved with causes and activities you’re passionate about, you’re bound to meet tons of people with similar interests. Plus, you’ll have something to talk about.

6. Keep your door open.

If you keep your door open, you’ll meet many more people in your dorm.

7. Start conversations.

You can’t expect people to approach you all the time. If you want to have a great experience, you have to try to have a great experience. Almost everyone else is just meeting people too, so they’re in the same position as you are.

Don’t worry about making friends right away; eventually, you will find the people you really get along with and enjoy being around. Focus on figuring out your way around campus, bonding with your roommates, studying, getting involved, and having fun. In the midst of all of that, you’ll be sure to find some great friends.



Paige Sheffield 

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